This past week we’ve almost doubled the amount of Tuesday Treasure subscribers (up to 209!). Pretty incredible. Thank you. It truly means the world to me.
For those new here:
You’re in some good company.
The people who receive this newsletter are curious, intelligent, and kind. I know because I’ve spent hours on the phone with a bunch of you in the past week and I’ve been absolutely blown away (thank you for your time!).
Fellow writers, readers, and learners. Individuals who have mastered foreign languages, beat debilitating lifelong diseases, and overcome social anxiety. People who are trying to become the best versions of themselves.
I’m honored to be in your company.
Also: your feedback is always appreciated. Even if it’s negative, I am always curious about what you think about the newsletter.
This past week, I published an article on Tuesday Treasure subscriber Hunter Weiss and his 50-mile (!!) run. I also posted an article on the lessons I learned after 60 straight days of meditation, which was transformational in no small sense.
But enough about me!
On to the treasure.
What Is Success Really?
Tuesday Treasure subscriber Madison Fischer recommended An Astronaut’s Guide To Life on Earth by Chris Hadfield.
[Quick side note: Madison is a 19-year-old internationally competing rock climber who also happens to be an excellent writer. She wrote a piece on quitting Instagram that’s worth the read. I told you the coolest people subscribe to this newsletter! ;]
The biggest takeaway thus far has been that even though Hadfield was an astronaut, he didn’t define success by whether or not he actually went to space. That kinda blew my mind.
(If you thought all astronauts got to venture out on rockets… I did too before reading this book.)
In truth, there was never a guarantee he would make it off Earth. Instead, he defined success as something else entirely. In his own words:However, success, to me, never was and still isn’t about lifting off in a rocket (though that sure felt like a great achievement). Success is feeling good about the work you do throughout the long, unheralded journey that may or may not wind up at the launch pad.
(Bolding my own.)
An Analogy To Describe The Universe
I mean, the far majority can only guess.
We’ve seen photos and videos, like this one:
But Chris Hadfield has the first-hand experience.
Intellectually, he’d known he was going into the universe. Yet the sight of it still shocked him, profoundly.
This was his analogy:Imagine you’re in your living room, intently reading a book, and then you look up casually and you’re face to face with a tiger. No warning, no sound or smell, just suddenly, that feral presence.
Could you imagine?!
Everything Changes You
I was talking to Tuesday Treasure subscriber Wesley last week about how reading fiction (as opposed to non-fiction) was going to change my worldview – and how that slightly worried me.
He explained to me that every new piece of information, every conversation, every book… They all change the way we think of the world, even if it’s just slightly.
And that’s okay.
That shouldn’t mean we should shelter ourselves from new information and create echo chambers.
It actually means we should seek out information that potentially disagrees with us because it can strengthen our thinking.
Thanks for the lesson, Wesley.
The 3 Month Rule
I have this sneaking suspicion that the person you’re presenting to the world is really just the character you’ve been working on for the past three months.
Obviously, it takes more than three months to create real change in your life. But it’s my theory that in three months, you can completely change your direction and present an entirely new character to the world.
All you have to do is ask yourself: What would the person I want to be in three months be doing every day? And do that – even if it’s difficult.
Three months is short enough that we can actually picture it but long enough to make a real difference. Three months gives you time to ask for feedback. Three months allows you to learn, grow, and change.
If you’re not happy with your current version of yourself, you’re only three months away from presenting a new person to the world.
By the same token, if you are happy with the current version of yourself, keep doing what got you there. The last three months will probably serve as a good gameplan for what you should continue to do.
The Next Generation
Interestingly, there was a common theme that came up in a number of calls I did with the Tuesday Treasure family…
That people were pursuing their highest version to help the next generation. Particularly, in their family or community.
Let this be a reminder – people are watching your actions.
Although we like to think of ourselves as these singular beings, we are all deeply intertwined. When you do something, it makes it easier for someone else to justify doing that same behavior as well.
We mainly pursue activities when they’re “normal” or we know someone who has done that action too.
Think of the last habit or hobby you started in your life. Did you make it randomly? Or did you feel comfortable doing it because you saw someone else do it and think to yourself, “Oh, I could/should do that as well”?
We base our actions on what others do. So it’s time to internalize that others look to us to figure out what’s normal as well.
If our “normal” is pursuing the highest version of ourselves, we make it easier for the next generation to justify taking that leap as well.
Taking A Lesson From A Diner
I went to a diner a few months ago (pre-COVID quarantine, of course).
I looked at the wall, saw a bunch of faces, and asked the waiter, “Who are all those people?”
“Oh, those are our most loyal customers,” he replied.
Here was a diner recognizing those who supported it by displaying them. I thought it was so simple and so brilliant.
“I’m going to stash that one in my back pocket,” I thought to myself… not quite sure when I’d use it.
Well, the time has come.
There are so many people who receive this newsletter who are incredible individuals doing incredible things – like Hunter, Madison, and Wesley.
So I’d like to take a page out of this diner’s playbook and highlight you on my website.
We’ll call it the Tuesday Treasure Member’s List (or something like that – if you can come up with a better name… let me know!).
If you’d like to be included on the Member’s List, then just hit reply.
List what you’re currently up to and/or your accomplishments. Feel free to brag. Three bullet points will suffice.
If you’re not in the mood to brag but still want to be featured, hit the reply button and let me know. I’ll do some research about you, what you’re up to, and I’ll run it by you before I put it up next week.
If you have a favorite photo you’d like me to use, send it my way.
As always, I look forward to hearing from you.
Reply back with your favorite piece of Treasure, anything random you’re thinking about, and/or if you’d like to be included on the Member’s List!
To your success,
P.S. I’ve set up a Calendly link if you’d like to talk on the phone. It would be my pleasure to bring some joy, happiness, and energy into your life. Some people have described it as the best phone call of their life, but I’m not here to sell you on it. Hope to hear from you soon. 🙂