The Four Agreements Notes

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A ...

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  • Everything in existence is a manifestation of the one living being we call God. Everything is God.
  • The real us is pure love, pure light.
  • We keep doing what others want us to do in order to get rewards. We fear being punished and fear not getting the reward, so we start to pretend we are what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else.
  • We need a great deal of courage to challenge our own beliefs because we have agreed to these beliefs. They make us feel safe.
  • In your whole life nobody has abused you more than you have abused yourself. If someone abuses you more than you’ve abused yourself, you’ll probably walk away. But if someone abuses you less than you abuse yourself, you’ll stay in the relationship and tolerate it.
  • The agreements that come from fear require us to expend a lot of energy, but the agreements that come from love help us conserve and gain energy.

The First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word

  • Your word is the power you have to create. Through the word, you express your creative powers. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word.
  • Your word is your spell (we “spell” with words, get it?)
  • Our parents/siblings gave us opinions about us without even thinking
  • A sin is anything you do that goes against yourself
  • If I love myself, I will express my love in interactions with you, because that action will produce a like reaction. This is why saying “I love myself” generates such positive results in your own life. (Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant)
  • We sometimes believe we must repress our emotions in order to be loved.
  • Every action you take matters.
  • Gossiping is wasting your word
  • Your opinion is not necessarily right, it is just your viewpoint.
  • How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself is directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word.
  • Tell yourself how wonder you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself.

The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally

  • Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally.
  • Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind.
  • Compliments and criticism. Don’t take it personally. It’s a reflection of the other person.
  • When you feel good, everything around you is good. When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy. You are loving everything that is around you, because you are loving yourself. Because you like the way you are. Because you are content with you. Because you are happy with your life. You are happy with the movie you are producing, happy with your agreements with life. You are at peace, and you are happy. You live in that state of bliss where everything is so wonderful, and everything is so beautiful. In that state of bliss you are making love all the time with everything you perceive.
  • If someone is not treating you with love or respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you.

The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions

  • We literally dream things up in our imaginations. Because we don’t understand something, we make an assumption about the meaning, and when the truth comes out, the bubble of our dream pops and we find out it was not what we thought.
  • We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things the reasoning mind cannot explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just that the answer makes us feel safe. That’s why we make assumptions.
  • Avoid assumptions by asking questions. Clear questions. Have the courage to ask questions until you are clear as you can be, and don’t assume you know everything there is no know about a situation.

The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

  • Regardless of the quality, keep doing your best – no more and no less.
  • When you do more than your best (overdo it), you go against your body and yourself and it will take you longer to achieve your goal (true with lifting, got injured overdoing it!)
  • When you do less than your best, you subject yourself to frustrations, self-judgement, guilt and regret
  • Take action just for the sake of doing it, without expecting a reward. You will find you enjoy the actions and the rewards will come, but you are not attached to it.
  • When you are doing your best just for the pleasure of doing it, you are taking action because you enjoy the action.
  • Action is about living fully. Inaction is sitting in front of the television/phone/screen because you are afraid to take risk and express what you are.
  • The best way to say “Thank you, God” is to live in the present moment.

The Toltec Path To Freedom: Breaking Old Agreements

  • If we find a child who is two or three, perhaps four years old, we find a free human. Why is this human free? Because this human does whatever he or she wants to do. The human is completely wild!
  • The real you is still a little child who never grew up. Sometimes that little child comes out when you are having fun or playing, painting, writing, or expressing yourself in some way. These are your happiest moments of your life – when you are the real you.
  • The first step toward personal freedom is awareness. We need to be aware we are not free in order to be free. We need to be aware of what the problem is in order to solve the problem (interestingly, I said something extremely similar to David Chodosch today about social media… we need to be aware we are getting addicted before we can make a change)
  • The freedom we seek is to use our own mind and body to live life, instead of the life of the belief system
  • Forgiveness is a way to heal yourself. We must forgive those we feel who have wronged us. We do this because we love ourselves and no longer wish for pay for the injustices.

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